I borrowed these thought-provoking questions from this website for you to think about.
How about you give me some thought-provoking answers........
Is there always room for compromise in your life?
On what issues would you never compromise your feelings or thoughts?
Do you think this is an attractive or challenging part of your personality?
Does it make you more likeable?
Do close friends know what your driving principles are?
Or do you keep them well hidden from view?
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Life is full of compromises, as when one individual wants something, it is often at the expenses of others. This requires one person to give in to the desires of another, in other words, make a compromise. In my opinion, compromises are necessary in life, and there should always be room for some compromise in most situations. For example, relationships with other people require that compromises be made, but these compromises are usually very minor, e.g. spending a little less time with friends, being more emotional, etc... Compromise does suggest weakness in a person however, and bowing down to another person too often can shape a person negatively.
There are issues such as religious beliefs, and the characteristics that make 'good' and 'bad' people, along with many other issues that affect me greatly, that I personally would never compromise my feelings over. These issues are too vital to my character and personality that I would never compromise for someone else’s benefit. Compromising changes who you are, and I do not want to change who I am because of what other people think. This is my personality, and while in some cases it may make people think of me as stubborn, my own opinions are what makes me me, and it allows me to challenge other intellectuals with strong opposing view.
I am sure that there are many people who may see lack of compromise as a negative trait, but it would also make me more likeable to people who enjoy a challenge, intellectually. I do not believe he principles that drive me to do what I do are exactly obvious to my friends, but it is not my intention to keep them hidden, it is just part of my personality. I am not reliant on certain principles to make my decisions, I am a product of my experience and as such I change with time.
NO there is not always room for compromise in life. However like all situations it must be accessed and then if the situation permits, compromise might be wise or acceptable for the person.
Anything evolving the taking of life, either someone’s I know or a person’s in general. In a rare situation as his life or hers, I’d take the persons asking the question or at least try too. This is something I personally I would fine very difficult to compromise. As for other things nothing is standing out at the moment. Anything personal that may arise that I feel is asking too much I will not compromise with, however generally I am happy to take new things on and compromise accordingly.
Personally I don’t think this trait is attractive or challenging in every day life, however if the situation was to arise then I think the person I was not killing would think it was pretty neat.
Again only to the person I am not killing.
Um sure they do, because when they ask for a drink at my plays and they don’t use a coaster the get a spraying, one with the hose and two by my mum and me.
The whole life saving/not taking life thing I don’t think my friends know about however whenever we want to do something as a group, they know I like to have everyone’s opinion before we do something.
>I do believe there is always room to compromise in life, but sometimes it is hard to do as you may think that some people do not deserve to be compromised. Then those people may take that as your weakness as you will always compromise even with enemies.
>I wouldn't compromise for undeserving people such as criminals or politics (lol). Some peole have done horrible acts in life and sometimes its good to have a biased opinion on the matter so that those people get they deserve.
>I don't know if this makes me attractive or challenging, as i don't ask people about my personality, so i don't have another opinion.
> I guess when it does come to your friends compromising is important, because usually there's a leader of a group and everyone compromises to them , otherwise there would be competition between mates.
>i guess my close mates do know what my driving principles are as i open up to them and they know most of my personal life.
>I usually dont hide anything from close mates, but there are things that people always keep to themselves. But driving principles aren't very personal, to my opinion.
I wouldn’t say there is always room for compromise in my life, there are certain times and situations for which I would not compromise. If I felt it would be doing something I really didn’t like or was principled against I would stubbornly refuse to do it. Mainly the issues I wouldn’t cross would be what I thought to be right or wrong, I really don’t like breaking the rules, I get a very guilty conscience and I think I would have a nervous attack if I did to many things that went against what I thought was right to do, though on the other hand if the rule was stupid and unnecessary I wouldn’t have a qualm breaking it.
I consider myself rather easy going and if the thing I was compromising for didn’t bother me I would probably give in, considering that I don’t care either way, and I also tend to do things that will make other people happy, and maybe take the easy way, generally taking the view why fight if it isn’t important (like when my best friend makes me watch big brother when she is over, even though I hate that show).
Though I don’t consider it a great flaw, I wouldn’t call it either attractive or challenging, but then I don’t think I would be able to see it clearly as either since it is just how I am.
I don’t think it would necessarily make me more likeable, it might frustrate some people, though I also wouldn’t annoy people by refusing to do anything that isn’t MY way.
To tell you the truth I don’t think I really have any driving principles, or at least any that I’m aware of. And I don’t think they are all that obvious though I certainly don’t deliberately hide them from the people who are close to me.
So I think there are times for compromise and times where you stand up for your position on whatever it is you’re compromising about. It all comes down to the situation, the issue, and your personality when It comes to compromise.
- I believe that there is room for compromise, but not 100% of the time. People need to be able to compromise in order to avoid unnecessary conflict with others in their lives and maintain healthy relationships, but too much compromise can lead to dismissive tendencies. As important as the ability to accept other viewpoints and compromise is, a person needs to also be able to stand by their personal opinions and defend themselves. Compromise is something that requires room in life, but as with all good things, in moderation: too much compromise can lead to someone who is not willing to stand by their opinion, and who is weak and/or dismissive.
- In general terms, if it’s not something that affects me in a major way or that I have strong opinions towards, than I am willing to compromise on it. However, if I have strong and well-founded beliefs on a particular subject then I would be less likely to compromise, if at all. I can be stubborn about certain things.
- I think having personal opinions that aren’t available to be compromised is basically the norm for a lot of people. I don’t know if it’s something attractive, but I guess to someone with differing opinions, it would be challenging to spend time with somebody with different viewpoints to your own.
- Having opinions on certain issues that you’re not willing to compromise for any reason would, I imagine, be an admirable part of a person’s personality in most instances. It takes time and courage to form such strong viewpoints and be able to argue them. As far as it being a likeable trait, I guess it would depend on the specific issue/viewpoint.
- I tend to be pretty vocal about my beliefs on certain topics if they come up in conversation, though I usually won’t bring them up out of the blue. I would imagine my friends are informed of my ‘driving principles’, though the extent to which they know them would depend on the friend themselves and the circumstances in which I know and spend time with them. Some of my friends know more about my opinions than others but generally they are all knowledgeable to some extent in my beliefs.
(Charlotte)
This is a difficult question as in a sense as human beings we have the right of our opinions and choice. But sometimes certain obstacles dont offer us such things as choice and we seem to take the easy way out of the sitution, which means compramising our own beliefs and pride in order to fulfill anothers joy. In my life personally i do believe i compramise alot, due to the fact that if i dont selfishness can overtake me and in many cases i have often put others needs and obligations before my own. This is normal to the degree that society introduces idea's and issues which we ultimatly have to make a decision about. There is not always room for comprimastion, as at times there is only a one way road. I wouldnt say i would never not compramise on certain feelings or thoughts... but yes there are times where as individuals we have to much pride or concerne over an issue to completly disregard our own rights.Compromise is necassary is life.
Whilst causally perusing the Lit Blog, armed with a cup-o-soup and somewhat strong expresso, half hoping to find the meaning of life, I stumbled upon these questions. After a gander at them, I concluded that I shall answer them, not so much as an excuse to talk at length about myself, but rather to see how I actually percieve myself.
First and foremost, on the issue of comprimise and whether or not there is room for it in my life. Comprimise, essentially, is the driving force behind all of humanity. If every single individual were obstinate and unwilling to change their posisition in order for the completion of a set task, then nothing would ever be achieved. Almost every action we partake in is a comprimise. The fact that i am drinking a tomato flavoured cup-o-soup and not a pumpkin flavoured cup-o-soup is in fact a comprimise. I wasn't obliged to drink the tomato soup; i did so because i happened to drink the last pumkin soup yesterday. Anyone who pursues ideals is living a comprimise. The act of adhering to an ideal is a comprimise, for an ideal is something that is never 'achieved', but rather something that is adhered to until its eventual failure - in many cases, death. In attempting to adhere to ideals, we are changing the ways we would act, thus a comprimise has taken place. So let me relate that to myself; yes there is room for comprimise in my life. If there wern't, i would be an obstinate sod who never strived to achieve anything but for annoying the pantaloons off anyone who so happened to cross my path. Now let me draw a line with my definition- some things should NOT be comprimised. Morals, (not strictly ideals per say) something, should not be comprimised in the interests of other people. If this occured in society there would be no such thing as individuality. So in short, no, i will not comprimise every aspect of my life for the sake of others. Those aspects (and im quite sure they are right) define my character. More particularly, i would, under no circumstances change so much as one iota if it means i am impeding on my integrity. This includes drinking for the sake of getting drunk, drinking on behalf of the fact im unable to be interesting without the loss of inhibition (and let me tell you, thats rampant in todays society), smoking and accepting the opinion of somebody else if it is in direct opposition of my own.
My willingness to comprimise, i believe, is an attractive facet of my personality. It enables me to socialise with people from all different walks of life, providing valuable insight to the nature of humans. Many people, i have witnessed through my days on this earthly plane, tend to fit a particular stereotype or particular group of people with similar interests to themselves. Maybe its a defect of mine, but theres no group of people i would say i belong to. I find that i can empathise with a large spectrum of people given i put myself in the correct mindset. My willingness to comprimise, mould my characteristics in a particular way (but not in the sense that im 'trying' to fit in) is therefore an attractive part of my character, as it opens up a window of opportunity that, i beleive, many people are unable to utilise due to their beleif of being 'right' and others 'wrong'. In essence, there is no 'right' or 'wrong', because anything and everything is particular to one individial and how they percieve it. 'Right' and 'wrong' is merely a thought, nothing more, nothing less. It doesnt have a physical existance. Therefore, how can it be real?
Does it make me more likeable? That's an interesting question, for you see, in order for me to answer it i would have to consider myself through the eyes of others. Seeing as i cant actually first hand experience how im percieved by others, i would have to interpret signs, whether they are possitive or negative, and evaluate my self worth. Were I a buddhist, i would answer that "life is suffering". 'Why' you my ask? Well, through judging my own worth through means of how much i am 'liked', i am essentially under the impression that my ego or 'self' is actually important in the scheme of things, and this can only lead me to desire to be liked more and more, never reaching my goal. Thus, it is suffering. But im no Buddhist. And honestly, i could never accept that my personality is worth nothing. So, through comprimising in order to bring about a sense of peace rather than conflict, yes, i am inclined to think that the comprimises i make do in fact make me morel likeable.
Interestingly enough, i dont feel as if my close freinds know my driving principles. And why's that?Well, i cant say i know them entirely myself. If their was a reason behind my being born, then i would be better posistioned to answer that question. For now, i have to be content with living my current existance. Nothing more, nothing less. You could say i keep them hidden, but id also be keeping them hidden from myself.
And thats that. At least, the most i think i should write before i go off on even more of a tangent.
Adios
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